Intimacy Education

Embodiment Therapy

Consent Education



My name is Ian and I have practiced healing Bodywork” for 30 years, 25 of those years in Victoria BC. I am a certified Trager Practioner, a Sufi Healing practioner, Medicine Buddha Ritual user, Touch Healing Therapist and Intimacy Educator.

 I work with men and women. I have practiced bodywork healing for 30 years. I am considered to be a “safe male” by both women and men. I am only interested in your healing and pleasure. I have no personal agenda. See the many reviews on my websites.

I offer “Intimacy Education”, a bodywork modality to provide consent education and sexual healing for issues associated with trauma, disease, injury or aging. We may use herbs, diet, ritual, exercise, education, erotic massage or self pleasuring instruction. Adjustment of pharmaceutical treatments are studied in consultation with the family physician.

The “Intimacy Education” apprenticeship created by Caffyn Jesse and the “Consent Education” of Betty Martin’s “Like a Pro” class form the basis for my work. The rocking bodywork created by psychiatrist Dr. Milton Trager MD is used to cultivate a deeply relaxed meditation state.

This work is offered in the spirit of love and respect for the client’s needs. You need to have a short interview and sign a consent form for this type of healing work.

What is Intimacy Education?

Intimacy Education uses breath work, massage, and other bodywork tools for deep sexual healing for trauma and shame. It uses techniques derived from both Taoist and Tantric traditions. It’s often ecstatically pleasurable. It can be a primary therapy to help those traumatised by sexual abuse. It is also very effective to assist recovery from functional sexual problems suffered by men and women.  Intimacy Education can provide sexual healing for conditions such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm and trauma inhibited sexual functioning. It can help heal many things not related to sexual functioning such as PTSD.

I am now offering this work in downtown Victoria BC in my private massage studio. The healing effects of intense pleasure can be miraculous in an environment of loving healing touch.

In order to receive this work a short interview is required.

Intimacy Education bodywork can directly help people suffering from sexual problems such as the inability of women to experience orgasm, male erectile problems or other issues such as premature ejaculation in men.

Self pleasuring can also be used for many therapeutic applications including the relief pain including menstrual pain. It is useful for fine tuning sexual performance.  It can also boost healing and immunity.

Some clients receive massage just to relax and receive ecstatic blissful energy and pleasure. This causes the hormonal balance in the body to shift such that deep stress is often relieved, assisting healing and immunity.

Pleasure can be directed to energise the life force through the chakras to boost healing, immunity and to shift the mental state. The heart chakra for example can be awakened in people who have difficulty experiencing compassion.

If you would feel more comfortable receiving fully clothed bodywork please see the Harmonic Resonance Bodywork site at

Initial visit Sample Session price is $70 for 70 minutes.

Standard Session price is a sliding scale $75-$130 for up to 90 minutes 

Text Message Only: 250-882-5896


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Reviews of Intimacy Education therapy:

Local Victoria Client S.T.

“I first went to see Ian for Harmonic Resonance Bodywork. I had depression and all my muscles were sore and stiff. After each session my range of movement greatly improved and my energy level increased. I noticed that my over active mind began to slow down. I had been pushing down guilt and shame emotions in my body for a very long time from sexual abuse at a young age and physical and mental abuse in a marriage and suicide of my son.

A special heart centering Intimacy Education Bodywork was devised to slow down my over active mind. I also suffer from Bipolar Syndrome and this work, along with the homework Ian assigns me helps to stabilise my moods. This new work feels like it has released trauma from the cellular level. I feel such a connection with my body and spirit. I now have peace of mind, higher self-esteem and love for myself. I strongly recommend Ian’s services. He is very knowledgeable, kind and is an ethical professional who encouraged me to choose my own therapies and to take charge of my own healing process.

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Local Victoria Woman Jessie:

“I so enjoyed my session with Ian. I felt safe and empowered to guide his touch. The combination of gentle rocking and sensual massage integrating erotic touch was delicious – my body opened up in surprising ways and I felt nurtured by pleasure.”

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Review of Intimacy Education therapy for 23 year old man:
“For your work I would say that your valuable advice changed my life and it is priceless!
Thank you, K.T”
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Caffyn Jesse of EroSpirit Massage School on Saltspring Island BC:

“Ian has a special approach to bodywork he calls “Harmonic Resonance” that is very soothing and heart-opening – I find it invites a gentle de-armouring that combines remarkably well with accessing expanded pleasure.”

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Local Tantric Therapist  Maryse Cote

“Ian’s hot oil massage was superb. In a deeply relaxing atmosphere I could truly enjoy his skilful, sensual and caring touch; I felt very safe with Ian’s  healing energy. As a result of his hot oil treatment I felt joyfully alive as well as deeply nurtured. I feel very grateful for his gift and look forward to experiencing more.” 

Maryse Cote, 250-884-2084 Tantric Holistic Massage & Seminars, Victoria BC Canada

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I am located in Victoria BC Canada.

Contact me through email or text messaging on your phone:


Text Message: 250-882-5896

Session Conduct

Sessions are one way massage touch. Client can touch the practioners hand, arm or back for additional human contact during sessions.


Session Prices

Initial visit Sample Session price is $100 for 60 minutes.

Standard Shorter Session price is $130 for 60 minutes.

Standard Session price is $160 for 75 minutes

Medium Session price is $180 for 90 minutes.

4 handed massage sessions $225 for 75 minutes

Advance payment prices – 3 sessions discounted 20%

Lifestyle counseling $100,

Remedial exercise counseling $40.

All sessions include Harmonic Resonance Therapeutic work including Trager for back pain and other non-sexual health issues.

My Therapies & Recent Training

In my own case I suffered from apparent Aspergers syndrome until I learned to use my own erotic energies to awaken the heart chakra. I had suffered from extreme bullying abuse at age 14 and 15. It was a miraculous healing in which my own compassion and healing abilities were activated. It opened the emotional world for me after being trapped in the mind for over 40 years. It was this remarkable healing which motivated me to add intimacy education to my bodywork skills in 2016.

Erotic massage can be very helpful to relieve prostate enlargement  issues or BPH.  In addition I often recommend herbs and lifestyle changes to bring relief from BPH symptoms. This is a condition I suffered from for 30 years until discovering these solutions!

Caffyn Jesse was my teacher in the massage class and during the 4 month apprenticeship certification completed in March 2017. Having done Trager bodywork and massage for 30 years it was not much of a stretch to add sexual healing methods to my therapeutic offerings.

Additional therapies I use along with Intimacy Education include Trager Bodywork, Sufi and Medicine Buddha healing rituals, Prayers to the Universe, Chakra Therapy, Taoist methods of cultivating healing energy, Neuro-Plasticity Theory and Matrix Energetics.  I call this blend of therapies that assist the Intimacy Education “Harmonic Resonance Therapy”

EroSpirit School Therapies 

(Saltspring Island BC)

I received my education in Intimacy Education from Caffyn Jesse at the EroSpirit School on Saltspring Island.  I then completed a 150 hour apprenticeship in Intimacy Education.

In her own words Caffyn describes “sexual healing” through Intimacy Education:

“Sexology based bodyworkers are somatic sex educators. We teach through body experiences designed to nurture, deepen or awaken the sensual self. These experiences can include coaching in breath, movement, body awareness, boundary-setting, communication, anatomy, sensate focus, massage, erotic trance and other body-based teaching about sex. Uniquely in the professions, we are trained to do genital and anal touch for education, healing and pleasure. We touch in ways that assist students in developing presence within the body, opening interior awareness, and learning how the body can feel more and more alive.

The experiential learning opportunities available through Somatic Sex Education can help you engage in a respectful dialogue with your autonomic nervous system, so that physical and emotional processes that usually happen to us can be held in mindful awareness, and transformed. Love and fear, excitement and relaxation, arousal and happiness, reverence and bliss all have biochemical and physiological components that can be regulated, with training and conscious practice over time.

Somatic Sex Education is a wonderful way to address all kinds of sexual problems, ranging from premature ejaculation to not being able to orgasm readily. Couples can learn to navigate sexual differences and explore new erotic possibilities with body-based learning and guided practice.

We all set limits on the quantity and quality of pleasure we can embody. Limits to pleasure are ubiquitous in a culture that shames sexuality and fails to teach us how to honor and celebrate erotic energy. Sexual wounding becomes embedded in the body’s tissues and responses. Somatic Sex Education can assist you in expanding the pleasure that is possible. This expansion has physical, emotional, mental and spiritual components.” -by Caffyn Jesse

Education and Apprenticeship

I am a certified Trager Practioner, a Sufi Healing practioner, Medicine Buddha Ritual user, Healing Massage practioner, Matrix Energetics therapist, Reiki, Intimacy Educator massage therapist and several other modalities.

In order to expand my knowledge to become truely wholistic I studied Healing Erotic Massage at the EroSpirit School on Saltspring Island BC Canada in 2016. There I studied under Caffyn Jesse’s guidance, successfully completing the 150 hour apprenticeship program called “Intimacy Education” in 2017.

The EroSpirit School offers these trainings in sexual healing at:

Caffyn Jesse teaching at EroSpirit.

Caffyn Jesse on Sexual Healing

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I am located in Victoria BC Canada.

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My Education Summary


I completed professional training for Trager Bodywork through the Trager Institute in California back in 1990. The healing modality was invented by Dr. Milton Trager MD in the 1920s.  Trager Bodywork is a cross between massage and movement education and is similar to the Feldenkrais Method. Trager is a popular therapy in sports too, to assist with injury recovery.  I am currently a certified Trager Practitioner.

Information on Trager bodywork is available through the Trager Canada Website: 

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Sufi Healing:

I studied Sufi healing from Alima on San Juan Island Washington USA one summer near 2000.  I studied under my Sufi name Shabaz. In the last 15 years I have been adapting Sufi healing methods to modern bodywork.  Here is The International Sufi Movement’s Canadian website:

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Medicine Buddha Ritual:

I learned the Medicine Buddha Healing methods from Dr. James Sacamano in Victoria since 2002.  I have been incorporating Medicine Buddha rituals into my sessions for over a decade.  Here is a link to one of his classes.

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Matrix Energetics Book:

Marix Energetics techniques were added in 2015 (Dr. Richard Bartlett DC, ND.) This work allows quantum inspired energy transformations:

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Taoist Male Therapy:

I learned Taoist Therapies from Maryse Cote, a Tantric Educator and Sexual Healer in Victoria.

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Heart Chakra Awakening

I learned Heart Chakra Awakening Methods: A Spiritual Guide, Touch Healer, Chakra Therapist & Intuitive Bodyworker in Victoria.

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Enhanced Touch Training & Wheel of Consent

(Like a Pro Class)

 I learned ethical bodywork practices, The Wheel of Consent and Touch Sensitivity training under Betty Martin in the class “Like a Pro.”

Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent
Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent

Waking up your Hands

Says Betty Martin …

“Here’s a short experience I take people through, before starting pretty much anything else. It’s the first step in the process of ‘Learning to Touch’, which will be its own website soon. This is the first lesson in the series. (You’re here because I sent you the link – it’s not on the menu.) First, how to take yourself through the experience. Then, an explanation of how it works and why it matters.”

Click Here to View the lessons!

Betty Martin visiting my office in Victoria BC on Vancouver Island.

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EroSpirit Massage School 2016

Caffyn Jesse from EroSpirit School on Saltspring Island BC.

In 2016 I studied the Intimacy Educator Apprenticeship Training at the EroSpirit School on Saltspring Island. I completed the 6 day erotic massage intensive in September 2016. A 150 hour apprenticeship under Caffyn Jesse in therapeutic erotic massage was completed March, 2017. Here is the certificate:

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